How to Look After Someone with Dementia: A Comprehensive Guide

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Caring for someone with dementia involves balancing medical, emotional, and practical needs while preserving dignity and independence. A person-centred approach focuses on routines, preferences, and meaningful activities, supported by tailored care plans and networks of family, professionals, and community groups. Daily care covers communication, hygiene, nutrition, mobility, safety, and managing behavioural changes. Caregivers should adapt environments, use clear communication, and plan ahead for health, transport, and end-of-life decisions. Self-care for carers is essential to avoid burnout and ensure sustainable, compassionate support.
Understanding Dementia and Establishing a Care Routine
Understanding Dementia Types and Progression
Different types of dementia include Alzheimer’s, vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, and frontotemporal dementia. Each type affects the brain differently, which means symptoms and progression can vary.
- Common symptoms: memory loss, confusion, difficulty with communication, and changes in personality
- Dementia progresses through stages, from mild to severe
- Early diagnosis helps manage symptoms, plan care, and access support sooner
Developing a Person-Centred Care Approach
Caring for someone with dementia is not just about managing the condition — it’s about supporting the person.
- Focus on individual preferences, routines, and values
- Consider their cultural background and personal history
- Support independence and dignity where possible
- Adjust care plans as the person’s needs change
Creating a Care Plan
A care plan ensures that everyone involved understands the goals and day-to-day care required.
- Collaborate with healthcare professionals and home care services to create a tailored strategy
- Involve the person with dementia in decisions when possible
- Set realistic, achievable goals
- Review and update the plan regularly as needs evolve
Building a Support Network
You don’t have to do it alone. “You don’t have to do everything alone — support is part of good care.”
- Identify who is involved in care: family, friends, professionals
- Connect with local support groups and find a carer through community organisations
- Access respite care to take breaks and avoid carer burnout
- Join peer support groups for practical and emotional help
Daily Care and Quality of Life Management
Establishing Effective Communication
Communication can become more difficult over time, but simple strategies can help.
- Use clear, short sentences
- Support speech with gestures, facial expressions, and touch
- Be patient — allow time for responses
- Avoid arguing and confrontation; redirect rather than correct
Creating and Maintaining Routine
Structure provides comfort and stability.
- Stick to consistent daily schedules
- Build in flexibility to respond to changing needs
- Include familiar and enjoyable activities
- Use calendars, labels, and visual cues to support memory
Managing Personal Care and Hygiene
“The best care plans are built on respect, patience, and adaptability.”
- Offer gentle encouragement and privacy
- Adapt bathrooms with grab rails or non-slip mats
- Handle incontinence discreetly and respectfully
- Try different approaches if there is resistance to personal care
Nutrition and Mealtime Management
“The little things — a familiar song, a warm meal, a walk in the garden — can make the biggest difference.”
- Provide well-balanced meals and regular drinks
- Minimise distractions at mealtimes, make them a positive experience
- Adapt food for ease of eating as well as changing food preferences
- Managing swallowing difficulties and preventing weight loss that can lead to increased fraility
Supporting Mobility and Physical Activity
Movement supports both physical and mental health.
- Encourage walking, stretching, or light exercise
- Remove trip hazards to prevent falls
- Introduce walking aids or mobility equipment as needed
- Modify activities based on ability
Promoting Cognitive Stimulation and Meaningful Activities
Meaningful activities support emotional wellbeing and slow cognitive decline.
- Choose activities they enjoy and can still do
- Use memory books (scrapbooks/photo albums), music, art, or gardening
- Keep sessions short and engaging
- Balance stimulation with quiet time to prevent being overwhelmed
Managing Sleep Problems
Sleep disturbances are common but manageable.
- Keep consistent bedtime routines
- Create a calm, safe sleep environment
- Limit long daytime naps
- Talk to a GP or explore overnight care options if sleep problems persist
Medication Management
Managing medicines safely is essential for health and wellbeing.
- Use pill box/organiser or reminders
- Track side effects and effectiveness
- Discuss concerns with doctors or pharmacists
- Explore non-drug options if appropriate
Creating Safe Environments and Handling Challenges
Home Safety Adaptations
Small changes can prevent accidents and provide peace of mind.
- Review rooms for hazards (e.g., rugs, stairs, lighting)
- Install locks, alarms, and safety aids
- Use sensors or apps for monitoring movement and changes in temperature of rooms
- Maintain familiar surroundings to avoid confusion, too much change can have a negative effect
Managing Behavioural Changes
Understanding what’s behind a behaviour helps reduce distress.
- Look for triggers such as pain, noise, or frustration
- Use calm, reassuring communication strategies for agitation, anxiety or even aggression
- Try redirection and comforting activities
- Address hallucinations and delusions with empathy, it is their ‘reality’
- Talk to professionals about persistent or severe symptoms
Transportation and Community Access
Keeping connected to the community is important but may need adjustments.
- Assess if it’s still safe to drive
- Explore local transport or lift options
- Choose dementia-friendly venues for outings
- Plan ahead to reduce stress
Navigating Healthcare Systems
Healthcare can be complex — being organised makes it easier.
- Keep records of appointments, medications, and diagnoses
- Speak up during consultations; take someone with you – Advocate for them
- Know your rights to services and financial help
- Learn about available benefits or funding options
End-of-Life Care Considerations
“Caring for someone with dementia is a journey — and it’s okay to ask for directions along the way.”
- Learn about palliative and hospice care
- Respect the person’s wishes and values
- Focus on comfort, dignity, and pain relief
- Get emotional and spiritual support for everyone involved
- Prepare for grief and transition at the end of life
Carer Self-Care Strategies
“Looking after yourself isn’t selfish — it’s essential.”
- Notice signs of burnout or stress
- Develop personal coping mechanisms – take breaks and seek respite care
- Set boundaries and ask for help
- Stay connected to friends, hobbies, and your own health needs
How to get started with Dementia care?
When you’re just starting your care journey, it’s important to answer as many questions as possible to ensure you make an informed choice. Please do reach out to our experienced care team who will be able to answer any questions you may have.
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